Our Avoidance - SIAM ar ! (in Hokkien)

Have you ever experience some argument/conflicts or just slight opinion disagreements that makes you avoid to talk/confront/even meet the person ?

We didn't say out , but theres some part within us always will avoid to be in such person again....the best example is You in a shopping centre...and here comes your disagreed opinion person infront fo you.......your fight flights reaction cleverly turn your face otherside treating as you never saw them. In Hokkien we say - SIAM ar ! (means Run away, cannot see, cannot hear !)

Such feeling of avoidance doesn;t necessary last long with a particular person (it maybe) but the scenario will repeat itself again and again....And IF you don't want to look within on the lessons you had on such situations......you just tend to cleverly avoiding things/situations and person all the time?

This is very common among human interactions, when something disagree or hurtful experience..... we either Fight it till we win or we give up and even avoid to speak-meet to such person. So hard till not even a smile or Hello can be said during your shopping bumping.

So.....if a person would like to improve the quality of life and talking about self love and loving others STILL doing the samething to others.....then perhaps, your love are pretty limited...your journaling or affirmation doesn't make you bold enough to even give a smile or say a hello to people that you just diagreed with.

Theres another fact about avoiding is, once you know the oposite Secrets/behaviours. The mentality - oh now i know this person "Pattern" , better not to talk to h/she lar. And so, you go avoiding again....doesn't mean to ask you block them or passionately be with them if you not willing. We all have our own boundaries and choices, but i just mean why not treat it as normal as they are?

Am not saying to make a fake smiley face or show an ugly one....am just saying that why not allow yourself to Feel whats going uncomfortable within you? DO the opposite challenges you? if so, what button you have that got pintched? What the opposite reminds you off? Do they reminds you of practicality that smashes your dreams? Do they just doesn't go along with what you believe in? Particularly spiritual one...and are you willing to let it go if theres "something" within you ngek ngek ngek on it?

This is a simple fact, this is a simpleest issues to begin to work with! Our Avoidance! If by any chance such simple thing you also tend to twist away....then i think the rest of spiritual talk doesn't give much impact ....oh maybe there is, hopefully through time of fake affirmation/chanting/meditating...you be able to Openly and Willingly to look within this matter....and to be truuuuuuuue...you don't nd any of those to assist you in Openly Admit your Stuff, it only require to look withina nd say Yes, i have this issues and put it on others...or the opposite reminds my issues etc SOoooooooooooo Deal with it lor ;-)